Sparrow continues to follow me. It is Day 10 now. I just realized, looking at the calendar, that she arrived on Mother’s Day. How wonderful! She has sat in my office window while I have been writing this blog, and we sang back and forth to each other.
The primary message from Sparrow is self worth. She is putting so much effort in to communicating her message, it is only appropriate that I respect her enough to research self worth!
Hold on a minute.
I am sorry about that. I had to stop writing to run outside and chase the neighbour’s cat away from the rabbit’s den! Momma rabbit must have babies.
Now where was I? Oh yes, self worth.
Self esteem and self worth are often intertwined, and used interchangeably as if they have the same meaning. However, they are quite different. The only thing they have in common is the Self.
Self esteem is about putting value on yourself based on external markers; the job, the house, the car, the relationship, etc.
Self worth, on the other hand, is on how we define and value ourselves internally. One line that made sense to me (although I must apologize for not remembering where I read it), stated that “Self worth is the portal through which self esteem is received. ”
I feel Dr. Margaret Paul put it quite well when she wrote,
“We can know who we truly are only through the eyes of Truth, the eyes of Spirit. When we look at ourselves through the eyes of Truth, we can begin to move beyond defining our worth externally, and learn to see who we are internally. In others, we often value honesty, kindness, generosity, compassion, understanding, empathy, vitality, humor, acceptance and so on. Yet many of us rarely define our own worth by these qualities.”
The description from beyondblue.org.au also resonated with me,
“Your sense of self worth is how you regard yourself. It is your understanding of your qualities, your strengths, and your personal attributes. Your sense of self worth is a measure of how you value yourself. It recognizes that you are valuable because you are you; you are unique, and there is no one else like you in the world. It encourages you to try new things, to meet new people, and to really enjoy life. It helps you get through tough situations, and to pick yourself up and try again if things don’t work out as you’d hoped.”
How do you develop self worth?
Daily affirmations are a great place to start.
You are unique, so stop comparing yourself to others.
Treat yourself with kindness, compassion, and love.
Challenge the negative self talk.
Take responsibility and control over your own life.
Learn to trust that nudge, that instinct, that internal voice.
Focus on the positive; your talents and strengths.
Pursue activities that you enjoy.
Deepak Chopra had several suggestions for developing self worth. Here are two of my favourites,
“ Find one thing every day that makes you proud of yourself, no matter how minor it may seem.”
“Join a group you believe in. This group might be religious or spiritual; it might be doing volunteer or charity work. The purpose is secondary. The primary benefit is for you to meet people of your own kind whose spiritual nature is important.”
The dictionary defines self worth as “the sense of one’s own value or worth as a person” and “respect for or a favourable opinion of oneself.” But it is so much more than that!
Self worth is about listening, trusting, and relying on your own feelings and instincts. Self worth is about treating yourself with the same compassion, generosity, love, and respect that you would treat your best friend. Self worth is about self love.
And isn’t that what my journey and yours is all about?
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